Two life traps relate to a lack of safety or security in your childhood family. These are Abandonment and Mistrust.
Abandonment: people you love will leave youMistrust and Abuse: people will hurt and abuse you
Two life traps relate to our ability to function independently in the world. These are Dependence and Vulnerability.
Dependence: unable to handle everyday life without help from othersVulnerability: live in fear that disaster is about to strike
Two life traps relate to the strength of your emotional connections to others: Emotional Deprivation and Social Exclusion.
Emotional Deprivation: need for love will never be met by other peopleSocial Exclusion: feeling isolated from the rest of the world; feeling different
The life traps that relate to self-esteem are Defectiveness and Failure.
Defectiveness: inwardly flawed and defective. Fundamentally unlovable.Failure: Inadequate in areas of achievement, school, work, sports
The life traps that deal with Self-Expression - Your ability to express what you want and get your true needs met are Subjugation and Unrelenting Standards.
Subjugation: sacrifice your own needs and desires for the sake of pleasing others or meeting their needs. You allow others to control you.Unrelenting Standards: strive relentlessly to meet extremely high expectations of yourself. Excess emphasis on status, money, achievement, beauty, order, or recognition at the expense of happiness, pleasure, health, and satisfying relationships.